16 years.

Posted on
Jan 5, 2018

It happened last month without fanfare: Rand and I celebrated another year together. We’ve had so many anniversaries that they often pass by without us noticing them.


I understand now why Rand’s grandparents have to take a moment to remember how many years they’ve been together, why they both give different answers when I ask when they were married. It’s not that the time you spend together isn’t special. It’s just that there is so much history to sort through. So many birthdays and anniversaries and car rides and movies and dinners and breakfasts and dancing and laughing and fighting and making up and doing laundry. So naturally, you forget an anniversary here and there. (You also forget to do the laundry.)

If our relationship were a person, it would be able to drive a car. One day it will be old enough to vote, to buy a drink at a bar, to run for President. One day, our relationship will be older than I am now. And if I’m very, very lucky, one day, I will sit with Rand, and we will have to take moment to remember how many years we’ve been together, and when you ask us when we were married, we’ll each give different answers.

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  • Aww, how sweet! Congratulations!

  • Gul Cehreli

    Congradulations from Turkey. I have been following your blog for quite a while and have been inspired so much from you. Wish you many and very lucky anniversaries.

  • Happy Belated Anniversary. I think the best anniversaries are the ones you forgot but still did things together!

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  • Happy belated anniversary! Cheers to many more happy years together and to also forgetting to do the laundry.

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  • Lana Bump

    I feel the same. My husband and I have been married for 16 years, together for 19 years almost exactly (that kid is voting and has a theoretical fake ID!). And while we still remember the numbers it seems to sneak up on us more every year. This year I forgot it until 2 days before–whew! Happy Anniversary! It feels good when you’ve loved this much for this long. It feels lucky.

  • James Mostowski

    My wife and I have been married for 42 years and she, to this day, always asks me how long were we married. There becomes a point where you have to say “Forever”!

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  • Erica Morris

    So sweet – this made me tear up. We are lucky to have such love in our lives.

  • Riopel

    So no kids then? I’m glad. The last thing the world needs is more k-kes.

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