Steal This Idea: Decorating Guest Beds

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Sep 4, 2012

Folks, I am a bit of a thief.

No, I’m not referring to that one time in Barcelona (though I must say, the sheer amount of hate mail I got over that post was both unexpected and delightful).

My sticky-fingeredness occurs far more often than that. I steal from friends, from loved ones, from both those closest to me and those I’ve never met. Sometimes, it happens without me realizing it. Most of the time, though, it’s completely intentional.

I’m not guilty of taking anything tangible, or anything that would be missed. Instead, I swipe expressions and mannerisms. I’ll lift the occasional quirk or habit. Sometimes I even pick-pocket family traditions and practices.

And I weave all of this loot – the quotes and quirks and habits and expressions – into the patchwork of my life. They make up who I am, though I can take credit for originating very few of them.

I’ve ripped off nearly everyone I know.

  • From my father: the tendency to wander around the house, crankily, looking for something. If it can’t be found, grumpily throwing up my hands and yelling “Kvatch!”
  • From my dear friend Chrissy: the habit of calling people, regardless of age or status, by hyper-affectionate nicknames. Chrissy tends to use “peanut.” I’m a big fan of “schmoopy” (stolen from Seinfeld) and kitten (borrowed from Rand).
  • From my mother: the curse of laughing so hard, it becomes a sort of shaking, silent laugh that is punctuated with snorting. (This might be genetic. Either way, she’s to blame).
  • From my childhood friend Katie: liberal usage of the words “outstanding” and “realistically.” Also, the meticulous picking out of candy from a bag with my fingertips.
  • From my college roommate’s best friend who I met ONCE a decade ago: the expression “I can’t say no in enough languages.”
  • From my pal Philip: Use of the phrase “Zuh?” in response to any befuddling situation.


I’m pretty up front about my thievery.

“I’m so stealing that,” I will say.

Most people don’t seem to mind. I think it’s because they’re guilty of the same thing. We’re all a pastiche of a thousand little actions and words borrowed from those around us. I’m convinced that,  if we’re responsible in choosing what we appropriate from others (because we can just as quickly assume bad habits as good ones), we can become better people. And some folks have habits and mannerisms so rich and delightful, you can help but want to take them for everything they’ve got.

That’s what happened when Rand and I went to Colorado to see our friends Brad and Amy for a weekend. We basically robbed them blind.

Metaphorically, I mean. Although I left with a suitcase far more full than when we arrived. Let me explain.

The first time we visited Brad and Amy was just before my surgery. When we walked into the guest bedroom, we found the bed decorated thusly:

It was a seemingly random collection of toys and treats, but nearly every one was a reference to some inside joke. There were Icelandic lip balms (because Colorado gets dry) and Reese’s Puffs cereal (which Brad declared the most delicious breakfast cereal, ever) and no less than two dozen cupcakes.

“You got us ramen?” / “Chicken soup is curative.”

There were lots of knives, too, and some pajamas, in the event of a drug-induced jammie-wearing knife fight later.

I know, I know, I know – this all sounds positively insane, right? I thought so, too, followed almost immediately by, “Holy crap, I need this kind of crazy in my life.”

This visit, we’d figured the two of them would sane up, and not decorate their guest bed with all sorts of presents and treats and cupcakes. This is what we found when we walked into the guest bedroom:

To be fair, there were no cupcakes this time (we’d all deemed the previous ones to be not quite up to snuff. This didn’t stop me from eating three of them. Whatever). But there was an entire red velvet sheet cake. With cups on top on it (get it? Cups and a cake? Cupcakes? It’s clever, damn it). And holy cats, was it good. I ate it on the kitchen counter, digging a fork directly into the whole cake, as everyone looked on, somewhat horrified. I offered them bites, and they declined. It was delightful.

“Notice the huge blank spot on the cake where we should have written ‘Congrats on getting rid of Steve’, but did not.”

Rand captured my reaction on his cell phone.

“I’m not gonna have to share this stuff, am I?”

The first time we found a bed blanketed in gifts and sweets – an extreme version of getting a chocolate on your pillow – Rand and I figured it was because of my impending surgery. The second time, though, we realized a sort of beautiful madness was afoot, and it was something we needed to steal emulate.

So we’re taking Brad and Amy’s absurdly crazy and beautifully generous idea.

The next time someone stays with us, we’ve vowed to covered their bed in all sorts of random and strange presents, indicative of our friendship and the weird jokes and exchanges that we’ve had over the years. Stuff we insist that they take home with them, so that their suitcases are full of candies and novelty toothbrushes and trashy magazines.

(We hope that we get to pay back Brad and Amy for their hospitality, but we might have trouble convincing them to snub the wonderful hotels of Seattle in order to sleep on our guest futon.)

It’s a great idea, isn’t it? And I promise, I won’t mind at all if you steal it from me. Hell, it wasn’t even mine to begin with.

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  • Kristina Cline

    Okay, the second I get a guest bedroom I am totally stealing this. In the meantime maybe I will steal into my parents house and load their bed with stuff before they come home from a weekend in LaConner.

  • I’m sooo stealing “pastiche”. I thought my life was a melange, but now I’m trading that in for it to be a pastiche.

    • Amy

      I came here to say exactly this. “Pastiche” is going to be my new word for awhile. Then I will steal from you and use “melange.” These will replace “patina” and “cadence” as words I try to use far too often.

  • I love this! I usually have a baggy of their favorite candy on the bed plus a little basket of travel-sized toiletries at the foot of the bed in case they forgot something. This, though, this is a game-changer. I love it.

  • Janet T

    if my kids ever move out, I’m totally stealing this idea. It will become my reason to invite people over- their company will just be the icing on the cupcake!

    • Maybe you can offer your next guests your kids as a gift 😉

  • Paige C. Willey

    Do you know how many people will try to stay at your place now, if they weren’t clamoring to stay before?

  • Pretty sure I stole “Zuh?” from my brother so I’m glad to have… paid it forward or whatever.

    Also, I am inviting my family to your place for a sleepover because I could really go for a bag of hostess doughnuts. Make it happen, woman!

  • I, for one, am not planning on stealing this idea at all. But, if you could give me Brad and Amy’s address so I can go stay there, that would be great. Thanks, sugarcheeks!

  • Jessica

    I’ll continue the stealing by taking that “can’t say no in enough languages” line.

    Your friends are awesome, and this is a cool guest room idea. (I have no guest room, but I’ll file it away for the future!)

  • It’s always nice to meet other people in the laugh-silently-and-snort club 🙂 I am quite guilty of it, yet have no family member to blame.

    THAT IS ADORABLE. I’ve been guests at many a house, and it’s always really nice when people set something out in the guest room that goes beyond just making the bed for you (food, drink, toiletries, entertainment…)… But this takes everything to a whole ‘nother level. Will most definitely be stealing this one 🙂

  • Love it! I’m stealing it too.

  • Fiona

    Thanks for sharing, this is way fun and yes, I will be stealing it. It will be fun to pick out the items based on the guests. As for Brad and Amy, you can always send stuff to their hotel room. 🙂

  • Lyla

    I was waiting in line at the grocery store one day and overheard a mom call her little girl “sugar-booger”. I for sure stole that one.

    • Liane

      I’m totally using “sugar-booger”. In fact, as soon as I turn off the computer. It’s such a refreshing change from ‘pookey-lumpkins’

  • Jessica

    I love this! My mom always does something sort of like this whenever she visits me, leaves little gifts in places that I don’t see until after she leaves. It’s kind of the best.

  • I do this on a much smaller scale when I have visitors: Just Germany related items to welcome them

  • This is awesome! I mean really, the options are endless!

  • Im stealing this idea! If someone I’m not excited about stays over, I’ll cover the bed (in our case, the couch) in carnival quality giant soft toys. The really staring ones.

  • Every time I go visit my brother in Hawaii, my sister-in-law has all these presents to greet me. Hello Kitty chapstick, Hawaiian candy, sunscreen, etc. I love it! It’s so sweet and creative! I was thinking how I can’t wait to have a guest room so I can steal this, but I suppose I can even do it now in my one bedroom! 🙂

  • Brad and Amy sound like some seriously cool friends! I’m sure they had a lot of fun selecting the gifts to leave you, too.

    I did once visit some friends in Oregon for a weekend, and found a bottle of Jack Daniels Blue and a glass on the bedside table when I went to bed that night. I need to go see them more often!

  • OUTSTANDING!! *grin*

  • Oh man, I just read this a week AFTER our current guests arrived. What a terrific idea! I thought that stocking the bathroom with nice products and emptying a dresser drawer was a nice gesture. This, however, would have helped them forget their 14-hour flight in an instant! I am definitely stealing this one for next time.

  • Anne Kennedy

    Super! When can I come stay with you?

    • Everywhereist

      Any time, kitten.

  • Chelsea

    ‘Know what I want to steal? Your friends, Brad and Amy!

  • Jay

    Your friends are awesome and this is the coolest idea ever!

  • My totally awesome mother-in-law always has personalized “treats” for us on the guest bed. Articles she has cut out that she thinks will be of interest, jewelry, a cell phone for use while visiting, and every edible delight from blueberries to spring rolls to ice cream of many flavors (the latter being in the freezer) not the bed.

    I totally stole her use of the phrase ” listen here baby girl” said condescendingly to grown men that are bring ridiculous.

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